Why I Decided to Quit Social Media

Hello everyone!

I hope you are doing very well. I have been taking a rest from the whole world and have been out of the metaphorical spotlight for a while. It is important as a creator to rest since it is required to have new ideas and videos for my channel. I tend to receive an idea for a video when I am relaxed and not forcing myself to think of a video to make.

Today, while I was eating Ben and Jerry’s Fish Food ice cream, the idea for this video popped into my mind. It is here, your lovely self is watching it, and well tada! On a quick note, I do not recommend So? Red Velvet body spray, I tried it today, and now I have a headache from its rich floral sweetness. Big mistake.

Today I would like to speak with you on why I decided to quit social media. Let us begin! My social media life journey started when I was fifteen years old. I decided to come onto social media because I was desperate to make friends. I purposefully put in the word desperate because in life, what you create into your world, and what you receive from your reality mirror will depend on if you are desperate or natural/accepting. So, at that early age, many teens usually want to fit in and have a fear of missing out. I had this, which is why I joined social media. I was also threatened by my sibling that I would be lonely for the rest of my life and die alone if I did not. Yea we all been through challenging times.

I realised, though, after a couple of years (over 10) that social media did not change anything at all. I had all the social media accounts, and I added as many people as possible, and they offered to add me. However, when I wanted to speak with them rather online or face to face, they seemed nervous to do that. It somehow seemed alien to them to want to meet up to chat and possibly make a connection. I may sound old fashioned, but I like to make deep conversation by face-to-face meetings and hanging out, instead of solely texting, social media chats, or playing online games.

I carried on this social media existence until now. My last endeavour was to make a Tik Tok account. I admit it is a good social media, and many people are creative on there. However, after a while, I had some deep realisations.

1: I was only using social media to fit in with a society that expected you to have social media.

2: I used social media to cover my deep subconscious loneliness and not take the time or courage to face and heal it.

3: Social media, in general, can have health side effects, and for a while, did cause comparison, loneliness, and depression.

4: I felt way too exposed. I felt completely open to anyone and everyone and thought I had no privacy.

5: The constant pressure to make content, to be seen, to be liked, and make this content quickly once a week was harming the natural creativity I have. I could not think of ideas, and at the same time I was exhausted, and not having a lot of fun in the process.

So, after a while being on social media daily and watching multiple videos made things worse and worse. I was feeling emotional pain and having random mood swings. I fell into the trap of believing everyone was having a better life then I was, and their lives were so much more interesting than mine. I even enquired what was wrong with me, which I know now there was nothing wrong with me. Social media can be an emotional and psychological herd mentality trap, which can be insidiously toxic.

After some deep soul searching and discovery about the programming, we all receive, and how difficult it can be to notice it, and get out of it, about a month ago, I woke one day and thought to myself, “I don’t need these social media accounts anymore”. Suddenly on the same day, I deleted all my accounts and left. I felt I was on social media only to try to get attention; and constantly performing to the point where I was violating my true self. This had to stop.

Quitting social media was the best option for me. I only go on YouTube to upload a video to this channel; apart from that, I go on it very little and only for specific content. My mind feels clearer. I am not burdened by the constant news of the world, the fear of missing out, being spread too thin, or being overexposed to the point of no privacy or peace. I spend my days in more peaceful solitude, painting, crafting, and learning songs on my mandolin. There is no more comparing or feeling lesser than someone else’s life. I am focused on building my own, and that is the best gift ever for me.

I am not going to say social media is evil or bad because it’s not. It has its benefits and is great to spread awareness and build businesses. I believe the purpose or intention social media is used for determines whether it will benefit someone or harm someone. My intention and reason to join was not the right reason. Therefore, I had a period of suffering. When I realised that those people who truly want to be with me; can come and put their effort in to find me, and social media was taking over my life to the point of annoyance. I decided to quit social media.

Thank you for listening to this conversation of mine. I enjoyed sharing this with you, and I hope my experience has helped you somehow. If you have comments or questions about your views and social media post a comment, and I will check it out. Will I be making more subliminal videos? Yes, I will.

However, I am taking my time and will come with the inspired ideas I get, just like an artist works. I also will be making random, more personalised videos. In general, I have a unique personality where I can be spontaneous on a whim and not give a dam what others think, so if I want to be true with you all, I will naturally express that when inspired.

For now, I will be off to watch burlesque shows on YouTube and maybe play with my pet cat!

Bless you all! Goodbye!